“If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
How many times have you felt that you have been judged on several occasions? Judging others becomes a second nature to many of us that we fail to see that we are destroying the beautiful moments in judging others. I am not talking about judging the work of your student, judging an artist before giving the rating or any other form of legal judgment. I am talking about being judgmental and forming an opinion about others without even knowing the complete facts. Sometimes people judge others based on their appearance and other physical features. This tendency to judge others keep some of us ignorant about new ideas and thoughts, because we are missing an opportunity to interact with a new person who may have solutions to our problems. So, never judge a book by its cover, discover more. Another dimension to this whole judging process is you are judging the other person based on your limited knowledge of what is right and what is wrong. As humans, it takes ages to discover the truth beneath the layers of right and wrong. Moreover, our perceptions change with time. What was wrong yesterday suddenly seems to be right today and what was right seems to be wrong. So, in all honesty, I have stopped judging people, as I have realized that may be I will do exactly what they are doing now when I will be in their shoes. When nature does not judge us, why should we do? Sun does not check our IQ levels to shine in our windows and neither do plants demand a character certificate to grow in our backyards.
“It’s not given to people to judge what’s right or wrong. People have eternally been mistaken and will be mistaken, and in nothing more than in what they consider right and wrong.”
― Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace