I Want to be Myself

When I asked my 11 year old son, “What do you want to become when you grow up?” He replied nonchalantly, “I want to be myself.” I was disturbed because he is not concerned about the future. Then, I realized that he has a point. It is good to be yourself and relieve your mind from the pressure exerted by the society and parents to look up to someone and be someone. There are hardly few people who dare to say that I am happy in my own skin and I want to be me. It takes courage to do so. The next moment I went to my son and appreciated him for being courageous enough to admit that he wants to charter his own course. In fact, I learned a big lesson from him, that I should follow my own instincts rather than looking for acceptance and validation from others. Why don’t we follow our gut? Most of us live the life looking for the acceptance and never getting one. We don’t trust our own beliefs and instincts and fail to unleash the power within us. Our own happiness and decisions depend a lot on the choices what others make for us. We may feel that we are too close to see things in right perspective. But, you will get the right path, only when you will turn inward. The strength of your character is determined by believing in yourself rather than looking for the approval from others.

“What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.” Confucius


Seize every Opportunity

“Ability has nothing to do with opportunity”- Napoleon Bonaparte

The most important ingredient of success is the opportunity and even more important is to seize the opportunity at the right time. Most of the people fail to seize the opportunity because they doubt their abilities. On the other hand, success is embraced by those who are not scared of failures and those who have courage to get started. History is rife with examples of people who have taken advantage of every opportunity that came their way. If they had to wait for building their skills and gauging their own ability, they would never have been able to take advantage of the opportunity facing them. When opportunity knocks the door, it is important to grab the one rather than taking stock of your knowledge and skills. All you need to understand is once you got the opportunity; you need to be ready to put in extra effort and prove your ability. Encourage yourself and your loved ones to seize every opportunity, rather than questioning and faultfinding. If you will jump into the water, you will definitely learn to swim. Now, it is up to you to decide whether you want to maintain the status-quo or come out of the comfort zone.

“March on. Do not tarry. To go forward is to move toward perfection. March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life’s path.” -Khalil Gibran